We're here to be loved -- and we can only be loved if we're seen.  Try saying what you really feel, what you really see, what you really want, what you really love, what you really mean, with one safe person today.  Maybe the safe person is you?  Pen and paper works too! You are worthy of being free and known.


we need to create space to hear one another


"What kills a soul?
Exhaustion, secret keeping, image management.
And what brings a soul back from the dead?
Honesty, connection, grace."

- Shauna Niequist


I read recently that you are not loved if you are not known ….
and I completely agree…. the challenge is there is a wall, a huge hard wall, that divides the desire to be known and the willingness to be known ….this is a self-erected wall and thus can only be penetrated, overcome, knocked to smithereens by the one who builds it ….to be known is a scary thing ….it is a risk that can only be taken after trust is the foundation of that risk ….the trust foundation must be built slowly, thoughtfully, carefully and prayerfully …..if there are any cracks in the foundation, sewage can seep in undermining the whole thing.  Paradoxically, the sewage as it weakens the foundation, strengthens the wall.


there is this marriage conference about to be held in our church ….
some have been married for some time, some quite some time, and there is a wondering if something can be taken apart without coming apart, without a great permanent undoing happening …. and yet, to be built correctly, on a solid foundation, sometimes a taking part is required ...